Menopause is a natural process of the permanent cessation of menstruation, also referred to as “the change of life.”
It is different for every woman and typically starts around age 51. However, it can occur anywhere between the ages of 40 and 60.
While it can be accompanied by uncomfortable symptoms like hot flashes, night sweats, and vaginal dryness, menopause is different for everyone.
There are also many ways that you can ease symptoms and make the transition smooth and positive.

Menopause is such an interesting topic. I’ve done a lot of studies on it, and they all say the same thing—that, biologically, women had to stop being fertile when their daughters became fertile.
Imagine you were living in a primitive place where women had to work in the fields. While they did so, they depended on their mothers to look after their children.
So nature decides that as our children reach fertile age, your fertility should end too. Enabling you to care for the next generation.
But as that no longer happens, and we live longer and longer, the whole menopause is changing…

Since then, medical advances such as IVF treatments mean the reason we have menopause is kind of redundant.
For example, you could have a daughter at 20 and have another daughter at 45 if you wanted to. Although our ovaries age and our eggs age, the womb is kind of ageless.
It’s really not important why you have it or what it’s for. The most important thing is that you don’t have to suffer.
Menopause doesn’t have to be hot flashes, night sweats, weight gain, brain fog, and all the other symptoms we’re told to expect…
You can transition through menopause symptom-free if you understand how to work with your body.
Therefore, it’s high time we learn to block outdated beliefs that no longer serve us…

In my years of studying this topic, I’ve come to a solid conclusion—what you believe about menopause will affect your menopause.
I’ve had women come to me exclaiming, “My menopause was hell, it was a nightmare!”
“The night sweats, the mood swings…I just felt like a different person.”
“I hated it!”
While other people casually dismiss this time in their lives, stating, “I haven’t even had one.”
I’ve seen this discrepancy in those close to me too…
For instance, my mother and grandmother had horrible menopause.
Yet my aunt and friend’s mom said it was nothing, “You didn’t even notice it.”
Isn’t it interesting how different these experiences are?
One thing is clear: the way these women spoke about menopause was worlds apart.
So what I want you to take away from this is that just because you’ve heard other women talk about how terrible it is and how much they struggled through their menopause, that doesn’t mean you will.
Remember, their story is not your story.
Your menopause doesn’t compare yourself to anyone else. You are your own person with your own journey—and you get to decide what that will be.
This was certainly something I considered as I entered this time in my own life…

My story is very simple—I didn’t have one. I never went through any sort of menopausal experience. I didn’t have one hot flash, and I never had a night sweat—none of the usual symptoms or horror stories we’re told as you approach your 50s.
I believe the determining factor in this was my studies into women in Japan and in tribes who go through menopause without even noticing it. From that moment on, I decided—I’m not going to have one.
In the same way, when I had a baby, I decided I would not have postnatal depression…
A nurse came to me saying, “Well, you might have postnatal depression.”
I replied, “Oh no, no, no. I’m having postnatal euphoria. I’ve already signed up for it.”
You see, thoughts are things. Every thought you think has a physical reaction and an emotional response.
Your thoughts control your feelings…
Your feelings control your actions…
Your actions control your events.
Every thought you think, and every word you say is a blueprint that your mind and body work to make real.
For example, if you think about migraines, colds, or sinus headaches and say things like, “I’ve got the flu and it’s so terrible.” The belief that it’s so terrible will make it terrible.
You are what you believe—so change your beliefs because it’s everything.
So here’s what you can do about this…

If you want to get through menopause quickly and carefree, the most important thing by far is to take a look at what you believe it is.
What do you personally believe it is?
What kind of word do you use to talk about menopause?
Are you dreading it?
Are you terrified of it?
Do you think that it’s out of your control, that there’s nothing you can do?
Do you believe it’s something that unwillingly happens to you, and you’re simply at its mercy?
Or do you think, “Well, could I actually speed it up and go through it super fast?”
Have you ever asked yourself, “Could I go through and hardly notice it?”
Yes, you probably can.

Look at your beliefs and write them down. Write down every thought or belief about menopause, and then write the opposite.
For example…
If you think, “The menopause is going to be really difficult.”
Instead, write, “Menopause will be such an easy transition. I won’t even notice it.”
Rather than saying, “I’m going to put on weight.”
Update your thoughts with positive statements like, “I’m going to use this as a wonderful opportunity to have a healthier diet and lifestyle, and I’m going to lose weight.”
Or if you’re telling yourself, “My sex life is going to go down the tubes.”
Tell yourself exciting things, such as, “My sex life is actually going to get better.”
You see, it’s not what happens to you in menopause; it’s how you react and respond to what happens that makes all the difference.

Of course, updating your beliefs goes hand-in-hand with realizing that menopause can be a wonderful opportunity to embrace a new phase of your life.
This can be a time to focus on your health, try new hobbies, and create the life you want. Menopause doesn’t have to be a negative experience. With the right mindset, it can be positive and empowering.

As you get older, sex can be so much more exciting. You take your time, and you know what works. You’ve taught your body how to respond and what to do, and you can also be super orgasmic after your periods have ended.
Many women have told me, “I’ve had the best sex of my life in my 40s.”
They had their first orgasm at 42, 45, and 46—because they felt free to be themselves.
These women explained, “I no longer thought about my body as something that’s here to make a baby.”
Some say, “I feel sexier, I don’t worry about getting pregnant.”
“I don’t worry about being on my period, the mess, the inconvenience.”
“I’m free now.”
Therefore, menopause is the perfect time to accept that your body is here to experience pleasure.
The clitoris, by the way, is the only organ that is there entirely to receive pleasure. So that’s why it’s there, and menopause doesn’t change that. It doesn’t take away the hundreds of nerve endings in it.
So forget about all those old wives’ tales and misconceptions.
The only thing that can make you feel unattractive is your thoughts.
You can decide you’re an absolute goddess with a womb, without a womb, with periods, without them, with breasts that are high or low; it doesn’t matter.
You are female.
You are feminine.
You are sexy.
You are gorgeous.
You are a goddess.
So wherever you are, whatever you are, whoever you are, your womb does not make you more or less sexy. Likewise, your fertility does not make you more or less desirable—not unless you choose to believe that to be true.
Remember, your opinion is the only opinion that matters. When you hold this opinion and confidence radiates from you, others will pick up on that and reflect these beliefs back at you.
Desire, arousal, and libido all start in your mind. Your mind is the sexiest organ, and it never ages; it doesn’t go through menopause. So you can have a wild, passionate sex life in your 60s, in your 70s, in your 80s.
It’s up to you, so choose to reclaim your power…